Will people always come and go....

Purplemoon86 wrote:Been reflecting a lot lately - and find it sad how at one point a person who i done everything with and was my best friend, now hardly talks to me , since i moved ( still in same town and changed jobs so no longer work together) i will get odd text every now and again arrange to meet, but then she always find so excuse not to meet,

She came into my life, when i was at quiet a low, and helped me in many ways, we told each other everything, i thought we would be friends forever, but i guess for her because i don't live close or work with her anymore, she feels not to make an effort, so i question was she ever really a true friend at all?

All my life people have come and gone, would be nice if a few would stay

purplemoon

I understand where you're coming from , i'm sorry

It's tough, there's no denying that... someone who you consider a very close friend just 1 year later can be so distant and that's really hard to come to grips with when it's someone who we really thought the world of

Considering you are still in the same town I understand why you'd be upset, I would too. If she had moved to another country you would be able to understand it a bit better but with her being close that's got to be hard

Have you tried talking to her about how upset you are that she's distancing herself?
Again it's hard also being intuitive and knowing reasons for not meeting are excuses vs genuine reasons

I'd try calling her.. if you give this one more shot, I just think calling her directly might help
There could be a few reasons, they may not be connected to you , but i'd confront her and ask her why she keeps cancelling & just remind her that you think a lot of her and want to stay in touch?

Above all I can see why you were questioning whether  she was a true friend after all, I would be too in your situation.
If this does break off and she does fully cut off just know that whilst it's going to be really hard there will be other friends to come who will think the world of you and will give back 100%. Grieving an ended friendship isn't easy especially when you've travelled  a long way with this person and they know so much / been with you through a lot

If you do reach out try calling. I just feel on Facebook and Text messages people find it easier to worm their way out of things, make sense?

Take care of yourself & let us know how things go?

Cloud

Cloud wrote:Hugs Purplemoon

It is a bit of a joke and if anything sounds as though you are the one doing all the giving, all the caring, all the reaching out and you're right, there's only so much you can do.......

5 months is a long time... wow. Living in each other's pockets? ... to me it sounds like it's not as important to her, god, i'm sorry

Of course you feel sad about it, I understand
I agree with you, I would also rather someone be honest than try hint or just disappear or stonewall.... I'm sorry.....

You seem lovely and you know, maybe it's for the best...In the long run that is...

I'm betting you later down the line she will want to know you again, when work drags her down, her other friends leave her or move on, and she begins reminiscing and missing something you offered her. (Ouch) for now, it's notgoing to be easy but you are doing great, new job fresh start, friends will come, decent ones, who'll love you back and care for you too, and trust me you'll have so many coffee dates you'll need to book appointments :lol!:

It will be fine I promise.. you did the best thing and it sounds like she's made her feelings clear, directly or not... this friendship is 90% and 10% right now. Her loss.....

take good care of yourself




Cloud