Should I move on?

I just wanna know should i move on from my current relationship or should i try to fix it?

Hi MyaRandle

I'm Cloud one of the readers here on site

My short answer is this : I Feel honestly that it's best to move on from the current one... as easy as it sounds, I feel as though the time has come where everything has been exhausted. You've been here times before, time is passing by, I'm not necessarily saying there is no hope left but, I do sense this is a cycle that will repeat itself. What has been happening recently will likely continue without a major change. I feel as though for this to work out it will take the two of you, but your partner may not be stepping up to do their bit, to take responsibility for their side. So my initial feeling is that moving on may be a good option for you, I feel that whilst it may be hard initially (understandable) I feel you will also have a new sense of peace and serenity in your life. & I feel as though you need it. Fear for the future is also understandable, I get the feeling that this is a massive leap for you, should you decide to move on and start a new path. It will be difficult, but it will be rewarding. Your partner seems stuck in their ways to me. I feel it will continue, I see little change with them. It must be frustrating for you but I feel you have been patient with them and done and tried all you possibly could. Overall, I feel you deserve the peace and love you are seeking and giving out yourself & I feel that staying with your current/recent partner will just mean a continuous cycle

Hope this helps you and maybe one of the other readers will get back to you

Take care and let me know if you have any questions


Cloud

*Under UK law , I must state that all readings are for entertainment purposes only.*

Thank you, and I agree. We share a child, and I just wanted what was best for him, and I thought staying in the relationship was the best thing for our child, but im physically, and emotionally drained. Like, I love him, but I can't take any more of the disrespect. abuse, childishness, etc.. He was a great guy, and I was hoping he'd change, but I guess not. On top of all that he's done so much hurtful stuff to me in the past and it's hard for me to think about it constantly out of nowhere and just get so angry. I'm 2, he's 18. We share a 1 year old. And everyone always tells me, "well, hes going to mature a little slower than you are", and I've tried to stick around, but it's just not working. I'd love for it to, but i feel like i"m hurting myself every time, and it sucks for me, and I don't want my kid to watch mommy be weak in a situation like this. I wish he could grow up, and I've been patient with him. Sometimes i feel selfish for wanting to move on because I feel I should stick it out because it may be true he's maturing slower, but at some point he has to realize it's not about him, it's about our kid. Whenever he gets frustrated with the relationship, or our kid, he just runs home to his mom, and she makes it no better because she doesn't encourage him to be a father, she just babies him, and I want a real man...I thought I wanted more kids with him, and I wanted to be a family but idk anymore. Hopefully one day, but if it's not with him I just dont see myself having more kids with anyone. I don't want dysfunction. It took a toll on me growing up not having the same dad as my other two siblings, and I just don't want my child to feel that same hurt. I was trying to prevent all of that. My father wasn't really a father. He was more of a donor to me, I don't even speak to him because he's childish, abusive, and just flat out crazy. He's never been supportive, nothing he's just a bad dad in general, and I thought I was choosing someone better for my child, but it's exactly the same cycle, same qualities. They're the exact same, well they share the some of same qualities. When my SO is around and hes not acting crazy, he's the best dad to our child. Our child lovers him, first words were Da-da, he's fixed more bottles, he's changed more diapers, but when he's mad, he's a terrible person top the both of us. He's a totally different person, and it makes me so sad. I just wanted a family with him, and i thought he wanted the same, but its like he only loves us when he's around. Or he only loves our kid when he's around. He's only like 100 and something miles away, and he's always with friends, he doesn't even acknowledge our kid when he's away. But he's always with his little brother, and his 2 nieces, or 2 little cousins, but I feel they way he is with them, he isn't that way with his own child. It's like he loves them more, and that hurts. He's been gone nearly a week since our last fight. Usually i'm always the one blowing his phone up to talk to his kid, but i refuse to now. I'm not going to beg him to be his father. I've done it too much, and I'm sick of all of it.

Mya wrote:They're the exact same, well they qualities

Hi Mya

Sorry, I was in a rush last night when I was replying but I just read through. I agree with you and you really have done the best thing.

Mya wrote:It's like he loves them more, and that hurts.

You know , I understand where you're coming from, it's bound to hurt. It sounds as though he's not fully stepping up to his responsibility as a dad and I understand as a mom that is very disappointing and painful to say the least. But you are doing a great job with your LO, and you are doing a wise thing by moving on, for both of you. Good job

Mya wrote:He's never been supportive, nothing he's just a bad dad in general, and I thought I was choosing someone better for my child, but it's exactly the same cycle, same qualities.

I agree with you from what I've read, :| do you think it may be worth getting a restraining order in place?

Hi there


Just thought i'd drop by and see how things are going

How are you? have things resolved any?

Take care,

Sam :)