by astraldreamer Tue Sep 04, 2018 9:36 amso the day has finally come for the dreaded re admission school meeting for jj.
she was excluded because she left school early on the last day of her intervention week, she left because she heard a few other students say that they were allowed to leave early, and also over heard a teacher telling one student that they could leave early, so jj thought that she could too.
this is a easy mistake that even a non autistic child could have made, but instead of sitting her down and explaining it to her or maybe just give her a detention, they excluded her for 2 days, the letter sent refers to my child as defiant and as someone who makes poor choices.
she also didn't attend the full intervention week as she has had a ongoing health issue since boxing day and a little bullying which the school also fail to understand.
I received the appointment letter just as she broke up from school in july and its been looming over me like a bad storm the whole summer.
ive been quite calm about it but today I am anxious as hell and feel sick.
I am going to try and ring the national autistic society today to see if they can give me any tips on how to deal with the school, because I want the school to understand I am not trying to fight against the school, I am just trying to get the school to stop fighting against my daughter.
and that I understand that their job is to make sure she is in school and learning and following their rules, but that they also need to understand that as her mum its my job to make sure she is happy and healthy and getting the support that she needs.
we both have a job to do regarding my daughter and if we cant compromise on this then we are going to have a big problem because I am at my limits end with it all.
I tried to get a supportive letter from the doctor, he just said they don't write those sorts of letters, but I have her occupational therapy report that states all of her sensory needs are more or much more than others of the same age.
im also going to bring her social communication report from when she was being diagnosed which shows she has a severe difficulty with communication and that she scored 17 on the ados- 2 test,
somebody from send partnership is attending the meeting as well as jjs social worker from the disabled team.
my friend is also coming with me.
we have a list of things we want to discuss and also I found out that the social worker offered the school support in understanding jjs autism, the school refused this and I will be demanding to know why.
Also the senco at the school assure me that they do understand autism but that they can not accommodate for every single one of jjs needs, I want to knw why.
surely if a mainstream school is accepting disabled students then they need to be able to support them fully? not pick and choose which needs they want to support that day, she needs consistency and from all of the teachers and not just when they feel like it.
I am hoping to stay calm, put my points across as well as trying to get them to understand my child, but I have a very low tolerance for them not listening to me and continually labelling my child as someone who is defiant and one who is making pure choices because they have missed a lot of school because of mainly illness and a little bullying.
if they continue to not listen to me and be oppositional im afraid mummy tiger will be out to play.
any tips or advice please would be very great ful
please pray for me today im gonna need it lol.
she was excluded because she left school early on the last day of her intervention week, she left because she heard a few other students say that they were allowed to leave early, and also over heard a teacher telling one student that they could leave early, so jj thought that she could too.
this is a easy mistake that even a non autistic child could have made, but instead of sitting her down and explaining it to her or maybe just give her a detention, they excluded her for 2 days, the letter sent refers to my child as defiant and as someone who makes poor choices.
she also didn't attend the full intervention week as she has had a ongoing health issue since boxing day and a little bullying which the school also fail to understand.
I received the appointment letter just as she broke up from school in july and its been looming over me like a bad storm the whole summer.
ive been quite calm about it but today I am anxious as hell and feel sick.
I am going to try and ring the national autistic society today to see if they can give me any tips on how to deal with the school, because I want the school to understand I am not trying to fight against the school, I am just trying to get the school to stop fighting against my daughter.
and that I understand that their job is to make sure she is in school and learning and following their rules, but that they also need to understand that as her mum its my job to make sure she is happy and healthy and getting the support that she needs.
we both have a job to do regarding my daughter and if we cant compromise on this then we are going to have a big problem because I am at my limits end with it all.
I tried to get a supportive letter from the doctor, he just said they don't write those sorts of letters, but I have her occupational therapy report that states all of her sensory needs are more or much more than others of the same age.
im also going to bring her social communication report from when she was being diagnosed which shows she has a severe difficulty with communication and that she scored 17 on the ados- 2 test,
somebody from send partnership is attending the meeting as well as jjs social worker from the disabled team.
my friend is also coming with me.
we have a list of things we want to discuss and also I found out that the social worker offered the school support in understanding jjs autism, the school refused this and I will be demanding to know why.
Also the senco at the school assure me that they do understand autism but that they can not accommodate for every single one of jjs needs, I want to knw why.
surely if a mainstream school is accepting disabled students then they need to be able to support them fully? not pick and choose which needs they want to support that day, she needs consistency and from all of the teachers and not just when they feel like it.
I am hoping to stay calm, put my points across as well as trying to get them to understand my child, but I have a very low tolerance for them not listening to me and continually labelling my child as someone who is defiant and one who is making pure choices because they have missed a lot of school because of mainly illness and a little bullying.
if they continue to not listen to me and be oppositional im afraid mummy tiger will be out to play.
any tips or advice please would be very great ful
please pray for me today im gonna need it lol.
So glad your friend is going with you
